Monday, December 29, 2025

Randy's Memories: "Randy's Last Ride"

I wrote a blog post about "My Last Ride" some time ago in "Randy-write" - it is not great writing.  I wondered how my AI assistant Claude Sonnet 4.5 would improve it.  Here is the result:

(AI NotebookLM Infographic of Randy's Last Ride)

The Geography of a Life: Randy's Last Ride

The van idles in the driveway on Via Trieste, its engine humming softly in the California morning. Randy settles into his seat, surrounded by the voices and warmth of his children and grandchildren. This won't be just any drive through San Diego County—this will be a pilgrimage through eighty-some years of living, loving, and belonging.

Chapter One: The Places That Shaped Him

They head east first, then west on East Naples Street, hands waving at homes where neighbors became family. Randy points to houses one by one, telling stories his family has heard before but never tire of hearing—the Valadez’s who always greeted him when he walked by, the George family whose kids grew up alongside his daughters, the elderly couple Kurt and Ruth Sax who were Holocaust survivors who loved his daughters. Each wave is a goodbye, each house a repository of borrowed sugar and block parties and the quiet kindness of people who choose to care about each other.

Past Kellogg School, where little girls' feet ran to kindergarten classes, where lunch boxes swung and friendships formed. Randy remembers dropping Lori off on her first day, watching her walk through those doors, brave and terrified all at once. Then Tami, two years later, equally determined to prove she was a big girl now. The playground equipment has changed, but the squeals of children at recess sound the same as they did decades ago.

The van turns north on Hilltop Drive, and there it stands: Chula Vista Presbyterian Church, its façade holding within it a thousand Sundays, a wedding day in 1970, baptisms, service as an elder, hands joined in building campaigns, pastors who became confidants. Randy can see himself at twenty-six, standing at that altar in a rented tuxedo, watching Linda walk down the aisle in white lace on her father’s arm. He remembers the weight of his infant daughters in his arms during their baptisms, the splash of holy water, the promises made before God and congregation. He remembers committee meetings and potlucks, mission trips and Christmas pageants, Forest Home camp weeks, the architecture of faith built one Sunday at a time.

"We were married there," Randy says softly, and everyone in the van already knows, but they need to hear him say it again. His daughter reaches forward from the back seat to squeeze his shoulder.

Down L Street they roll past Chula Vista High School -- Lori's high school -- its sturdy buildings and green lawns holding four years of her adolescence. Randy remembers dropping her off for dances, picking her up from softball and cheerleading practice, attending parent-teacher conferences where he learned she was doing just fine, better than fine. He remembers graduation day, watching her walk across the stage to grab her diploma, thinking how impossibly fast time moves.

Then to Bay Boulevard, where the Rohr/Goodrich building stands as a monument to 37 years of engineering work, of colleagues and projects, of providing for a family. Thirty-seven years of driving this same route, of meetings and deadline pressures, of designs created, refined and problems solved. He thinks of Dennis from Stress Analysis, of George from Thermodyamics, of Stuart from Product Design, of Christine and other young engineers he hired and mentored who went on to successful careers. The building looks smaller now somehow, or maybe he's just seeing it with different eyes.

The Bayfront Marina appears next, and Randy can almost see himself and George, two friends walking decade after decade, solving the world's problems one stride at a time. How many miles did they log on that path? How many conversations about children and careers, about politics and baseball, about aging parents and aching knees? Randy swears he can still hear George's laugh echoing off the water.

The route winds through more memories: Hilltop Junior High, where both daughters navigated those treacherous middle school years. Hilltop High, where Tami found her happiness and confidence in the Russian language program. Halecrest School, grades three through six, where parent-teacher conferences revealed that his daughters were kind, helpful, good students --everything a father could hope for. Each building is a chapter in his daughters' growing up, a chapter he got to witness and guide and occasionally worry through.

Through Home Depot and Costco parking lots they go, these modern temples of suburban life where Randy spent countless Saturday mornings. Tools, a lawn mower and weed-whacker, paint for the house and fence, flowers for the garden. Bulk paper towels, popcorn, chicken dinners, industrial-sized ketchup bottles, and the $1.50 hot dog and drink. The ordinary errands that fill a life, that make a home, that somehow become precious in retrospect.

Then down to 577 Twin Oaks, the house where infant Randy first came home from the hospital, where his own childhood began. The house looks the same but different -- new paint, new owners, new stories unfolding inside walls that once held his first steps, his first words, his first memories. His parents brought him here as a baby in October 1943, full of hope and plans for their son's future. He stands at that threshold now, the future nearly complete, the plans mostly fulfilled.

The Chula Vista Library passes by -- 38 years of genealogy classes, research, presentations, roots dug deep into history's soil. Randy taught countless students how to trace their family trees, how to read census records and death certificates, how to breathe life into names and dates. He helped people find their great-grandparents, solve family mysteries, discover they were related to each other. The library gave him purpose and community and the deep satisfaction of connecting people to their past.

Marie Callender's is gone now, like so many things, replaced by another restaurant. He remembers birthday dinners there, pies taller than they were wide, the comfortable booth where they celebrated small victories. But Black Angus still stands on E Street, ready to serve one more meal. Maybe they'll stop on the way back, order his favorite steak (filet mignon), let life feel normal for just a little while longer.

Chapter Two: The Boy He Was

North on I-5, then off at Pershing Drive, climbing up 26th Street through winding canyons. The van navigates the curves slowly, carefully, these roads narrower and steeper than Randy remembers. Or maybe everything shrinks when you return to the geography of childhood. Golden Hill Recreation Center sits solid and unchanged, witness to decades of youth sports leagues and summer programs. The golf course spreads green and manicured, and Randy recalls sneaking onto it as a boy with his friends, pretending they belonged there, scattering like startled birds whenever a groundskeeper or angry golfer appeared.

Date Street lies before them, and Randy falls quiet. This was his paper route, his first real job. He was twelve, maybe thirteen, waking before dawn to fold papers, to load his canvas bag, to thrust his Flexible Flyer through the dark streets learning the responsibility of showing up, of doing what you promised, of earning money through honest work. Mrs. Johnson always gave him cookies at Christmas. When he went to collect for the paper, Mr. Stotler would invite him in, always willing to talk to his young friend and challenge him to learn something new. The route taught him about consistency, about all the different ways people live, about the dignity of work well done.

Down Fern Street to Brooklyn School, its architecture much different now than the 1950s, its playground cracked asphalt now but still echoing with the ghosts of kickball games, jungle gyms, and jump rope chants. Peanut butter sandwiches, an apple and cookies for lunch. Three years on the school Safety Patrol.

Then up to Christ United Presbyterian Church where Sunday school lessons planted seeds of faith. He learned the stories of David and Goliath, of Moses and the burning bush, of Jesus feeding the multitudes. Mrs. Shaw taught his class, a gentle woman who made Bible stories come alive, who answered his questions with patience, who showed him that faith could be both deep and joyful. The youth group headed by young men who shepherded kids through the basketball court and lake fishing.

And then: 2119 30th Street – on the block that was home for his first 24 years.

The van slows. Randy's childhood home stands before them, and the floodgates open—skinned knees and birthday parties, his parents young and strong, his brothers and the chaos of growing up. The jacaranda tree in the back yard is enormous now, probably forty feet tall. The brick patio with the ping-pong table, basketball stand, and whiffle ball court seems impossibly small now. He remembers his mother calling him in for dinner, her voice carrying across the neighborhood. He remembers his siblings fighting over the bathroom, over nothing at all and everything that mattered.

They walk around the block together, three generations circling a single point in time, their footsteps tracing paths Randy walked ten thousand times as a boy. This sidewalk crack—he remembers when the tree root lifted it. The house across the street is gone now -- the Cravers lived there, and their son Butch was his best friend until they moved to Mission Hills – they even took him on the airplane to Vancouver. Everything is familiar and foreign at once, like a song you once knew by heart but can only half-remember now.

Randy wishes he could go inside his former home – the one built by his great-grandparents, added onto and moved in 1927 to its present site -- to climb the stairs to his haven, see his Lionel trains run again, read the World Book encyclopedia in the dining room, listen to music on the radio -- KDEO and KCBQ, stand at the sunroom window where he watched the world and dreamed about who he might become. But the house belongs to strangers now, holds their furniture and their arguments and their love. His memories will have to be enough.

Grape Street Park sprawls green and timeless, echoing with phantom home runs and flag football games, and canyon adventures that seemed to last forever. Randy played here nearly every day -- pickup baseball games in the summer where they chose teams and played three flies up, where hitting one over the fence meant you lost your baseball to the driving range. Flag football in the fall, the canyons beyond offering endless territory for exploration and mild rebellion. He learned about friendship and competition and the pure animal joy of being young and tireless.

Morley Field pool appears, and Randy can smell the chlorine, feel the shock of cold water on summer-hot skin. He remembers swimming lessons, the terror and thrill of jumping off the high dive, Marco Polo, races to the other end, and the way the sun sparkled on the water's surface like diamonds scattered by a careless god. Theodore Roosevelt Junior High rises next, its halls once walked by a younger Randy navigating the treacherous waters of adolescence -- algebra and acne, first crushes and social hierarchies, the painful process of becoming someone.

They drive south past the San Diego Zoo, where school field trips and weekend excursions on his bike meant exotic animals and freedom from desks, where the world revealed itself to be larger and stranger than he'd imagined. The Natural History Museum, the Science Center -- each one a door opening onto wonder, onto the universe's complexity, onto his eventual path toward aerospace engineering. The Spanish buildings from the 1915 and 1935 expositions line El Prado like a daydream, their ornate facades and red-tile roofs a romantic vision of California's past, of a city that always knew how to celebrate itself.

The Aerospace Museum stands as a harbinger of Randy's eventual career path. He remembers standing in its exhibits as a young engineer, looking at planes and rockets, at the engineering that made flight possible, and feeling something click into place inside him -- the recognition that this, this is his life's work.

San Diego High School appears, his alma mater, where he became whoever he was going to be. These halls held his transformation from boy to young man, held his struggles with Latin, calculus and chemistry, held the first stirrings of adult ambitions. He graduated from here in 1961, full of certainty that the future would be everything he hoped.

The new San Diego library at K Street makes him remember the old one on E Street, where teenage Randy spent daily hours among the stacks, hungry for knowledge. He'd go there after school, lose himself in books about space exploration and engineering principles, about history and philosophy, teaching himself that learning was a hunger that could never quite be satisfied. The librarians knew him by name, saved new books they thought he'd like, treated him like the scholar he was trying to become.

Chapter Three: Our Team, Our Town

Imperial Avenue leads to Petco Park -- season tickets from 2004 to 2021, hope renewed every spring, heartbreak weathered every fall. The Tin Fish restaurant, Harbor Drive, Seaport Village, the Midway Museum, the Star of India -- the city's waterfront unwinding like a ribbon. Harbor Island offers one last panorama: city buildings gleaming, Navy ships at anchor in Coronado, the whole beautiful maritime sprawl.

Scott Street to Shelter Island, around the island past the fishing pier where Randy's grandfather taught him patience and the feel of a rod bending. Up Talbot to Armada Terrace, to 825 Harbor View Place—his grandparents' home built in 1951 where Christmases and holidays were spent, and where his parents lived the rest of their lives. The view from Lucinda Street, the steep descent, Westminster Presbyterian where the church couples group went to plays and they held his mother's memorial service in 2002 to celebrate a life well-lived.

South on Catalina Boulevard to the Cabrillo Monument to view the city to the north and east, to see the Palomar, Laguna and Cuyamaca mountains on the horizon, then to Fort Rosecrans National Cemetery. The van stops. Randy walks to his parents' graves, his family giving him space and time. "Thank you," he whispers, "for everything." For loving him, for life itself, for lessons learned, for making him who he is.

Chapter Four: Young and Endless

West down Hill Street to Ocean Beach, where waves crash eternal and surfers carve their temporary lines. Through Ocean Beach to Mission Bay, a loop around SeaWorld's parking lot, then Mission Beach and Belmont Park – remembering the rides, the boardwalk, bodysurfing and teenage summers that felt like they'd never end, watching girls and pretending not to.

North through La Jolla, winding to the Cove where seals bask and waves perform their ancient theater. La Jolla Shores, then UCSD where graduate work expanded his mind and credentials. The university buildings look both familiar and foreign, the way the past always does.

Chapter Five: The Work and the Passion

East to I-805, south to I-8, then to what used to be Qualcomm, then SDCCU, now Snapdragon Stadium—Padres games from 1969 to 2004 and Chargers games from 1968 to 2016, the roar of crowds, victories and defeats, the communal religion of sports. Across the freeway sits the Family History Center, 25 years of Saturday mornings reviewing microfilms, tracing bloodlines back through time, connecting the present to the distant past.

Up Montezuma Road to San Diego State University, where in 1966 an aerospace engineering degree opened doors to a career. Dr. Shutts, the wind tunnel, the challenging classes. The campus has transformed, barely recognizable, but the feeling of accomplishment remains. 

South on I-15 to Highway 94, onto I-5 south, and across the San Diego-Coronado Bay Bridge one final time, the bay spreading blue and endless below.

Chapter Six: Family Joy

Down Orange Avenue past Lamb's Players Theatre -- 20 years of season tickets, of stories told on stage, of culture and community. Randy and Linda had date nights here, usually with church friends, leaving the girls with babysitters to watch musicals and dramas and Christmas productions. They'd hold hands in the dark theater, transported by storytelling, reminded that life could be art and art could illuminate life. Twenty years of shows, of intermission conversations, of driving home dissecting plots and performances, culture enriching their marriage.

Past Miguel's restaurant, where the margaritas were always perfect and the carne asada was the best in San Diego, where they celebrated anniversaries and promotions and the ordinary miracle of another Saturday night together. Then to the Hotel del Coronado, that grand Victorian lady by the sea, its red turrets and white walls an icon of California elegance. They walk through the inside rooms together -- Randy moving slowly now, but determined -- marveling at the polished wood and crystal chandeliers, at the history contained in these walls. Outside, the ocean breeze carries salt and the cry of gulls, and Randy breathes it in deeply, committing the sensation to permanent memory.

Five miles down the Silver Strand to the State Beach, where decades of family memories accumulated like seashells: sand castles rising and falling with the tides, bodysurfing, picnics, sunburns and laughter. This narrow strip of sand connecting Coronado to Imperial Beach became their summer sanctuary. Randy remembers teaching his daughters to bodysurf, to read the waves, to time their entry just right. He remembers Linda in her beach chair with a novel and a sun hat, looking up periodically to count heads and make sure everyone was safe. He remembers sandwiches that somehow tasted better at the beach even though they were just ham and cheese, the crunch of sand in every bite a small price for paradise.

The coolers packed with drinks and fruit. The umbrellas that wouldn't stay anchored in the wind. The time Lori got stung by a jellyfish and Linda made a baking soda paste while Randy comforted his crying daughter. The hermit crabs collected in buckets and released at day's end. The sunsets painting the sky orange and pink while they shook sand from towels and gathered their things, exhausted and content, skin tight from salt and sun.

Several miles more to Imperial Beach, where grandchildren now make their own beach memories. Randy watches them run toward the water with the same fearless joy his daughters once had, the same abandon he remembers from his own childhood. The cycle continues, generation after generation finding happiness in the same simple pleasures—water and sand, sun and family, the timeless call of the ocean.

East on Palm Avenue all the way to Otay Mesa, to 755 Coleman Court—their first home, where the adventure began. The house looks smaller than Randy remembers, the way first homes always do when you return to them years later. But this was where they started their married life, where they learned to be husband and wife, where they furnished rooms with dark wood furniture and big dreams. Where Linda told him she was pregnant with Lori, both of them terrified and thrilled. Where they brought their firstborn home from the hospital, two young people suddenly responsible for a tiny human life.

The neighborhood was young families just like them. They grilled hamburgers in the postage-stamp backyard. They painted walls together, argued about color choices, laughed at their own incompetence with home repairs. This house was where they became parents, where they grew from kids playing house into actual adults building a life.

North on I-805 back toward Chula Vista, the circle beginning to close. The freeway passes familiar exits, each one a thread in the tapestry of their San Diego life. The van grows quieter now, everyone lost in their own thoughts, feeling the weight of this journey settling into their bones.

Chapter Seven: The Hardest Stop

Off the freeway at H Street, past the YMCA where Linda swam every day, through College Grove and Eastlake to Salt Creek and Duncan Ranch Road. The van slows at the memory care facility. Randy goes in, and his family follows.

Linda sits in her wheelchair, beautiful despite everything, despite memory's cruel theft. He takes her hands, tells her he loves her, that he has always loved her, that she made his life complete. They play three games of Uno (he lets her joyfully win), cards shuffled slowly, laughter coming easier than it should. He kisses her goodbye, lingers in the doorway, commits her face to memory one final time.

Epilogue: Home

West on Telegraph Canyon Road, to the shopping center on Palomar where they ran a thousand errands, bought a thousand necessities, ate lunches and dinners at Lolita’s, lived the ordinary life that somehow becomes extraordinary when you realize it's ending. Past the softball field on East Naples where Randy coached his daughters' teams for ten years, where fundamentals and sportsmanship mattered more than winning, where he taught young girls not just how to throw and catch but how to support each other, how to handle victory graciously and defeat with dignity.

He remembers practices on spring evenings, the smell of cut grass and the sound of aluminum bats. He remembers Lori pitching, the whip of her arm, her face serious with concentration. He remembers Tami being a catcher with fearless determination. He remembers team parties at McDonalds and the pizza parlor after games, win or lose, teaching them that the joy was in playing together, in being part of something larger than themselves.

And suddenly, miraculously, they're home again on Via Trieste. The van pulls into the driveway, and for a moment no one moves. They've traveled through eighty-some years in a single afternoon, visited a hundred places that held pieces of Randy's heart, traced the geography of an entire life. The journey feels both endless and impossibly brief.

Inside, surrounded by familiar furniture and accumulated stuff, by his genealogy work and family tree charts, Randy settles into his favorite chair—the one worn in exactly the right places, that holds his shape like an old friend. The Padres game plays on TV—they're losing, but that's okay, there's always next season. Except for Randy, there might not be. He watches anyway, refusing to surrender hope, the fan's eternal curse and blessing.

He opens his family tree one last time on his laptop computer, the branches spreading across the screen like an intricate map of blood and DNA. There's his great-great-grandfather James Richman who came from England in 1855. There's Isaac Seaver, the only ancestor who fought in the Civil War. There's Devier Lamphier Smith, adopted and a wanderer, the children who died young, the uncle who disappeared west, the cousin who became a doctor. Years of research condensed into this digital tree, connecting him backward through time to people he never met but who made him possible.

His daughters sit beside him, his grandchildren close by, some on the floor, some draped over furniture with the casual sprawl of youth. They're all here, all present, bearing witness to this moment. Randy feels the profound satisfaction of a life well-lived, of work completed, of love given and received in abundance. Not a perfect life -- whose life is? --but a good life, an honest life, a life that mattered to the people who mattered most.

The Padres rally in the eighth inning, and Randy allows himself to hope they might pull it off. Outside, the San Diego sun begins its descent, painting the western sky in shades of gold and rose. The same sun that rose on him as an infant at 577 Twin Oaks, that shone on him delivering papers as a boy, that watched him graduate high school and college, that witnessed his wedding, his daughters' births, every triumph and heartbreak.

The geography of his life -- every street and building and beach and field -- has led him here, to this moment, to this peace. He thinks about the map lying on the table, the one he prepared for his descendants -- the Randy Seaver San Diego Memory Tour. Maybe they'll follow it someday. Maybe they'll stand outside 2119 30th Street and try to imagine him as a boy. Maybe they'll walk the Bayfront Marina path and understand something about persistence and friendship. Maybe they'll take their own children to the State Beach and build sand castles that the tide will claim, and think of Great-Grandpa Randy who once did the same.

"Give me a minute," he says, opening Facebook on his tablet to post his goodbyes. His fingers hover over the keyboard, uncertain. What can you say to sum up a life? What words encompass eighty-some years of love and happiness and learning and friends and travel and memories? How do you distill it all down to a status update?

He types simply: "It's been a great life. Thank you all for being part of it. Remember to tell the people you love that you love them. Time moves faster than you think."

He hesitates before hitting post, wondering if there's more to say, but decides that's enough. Sometimes the simplest truths are the deepest ones.

Randy looks around the room at his family -- these faces that hold pieces of his own face, these people who carry his DNA and his stories forward into whatever future awaits them. He's so proud of his daughters, of the women they became, of the parents they are. He's proud of his grandchildren, of their potential unlimited and glorious before them. They share his blood, his persistence, his sense of humor, his love of learning. They'll be wonderful workers and spouses and parents and grandparents, he's certain of it. The tree he's mapped on his computer will continue growing, branching upward through time, long after he's gone.

His only wishes? That the Chargers were still here -- he misses them fiercely, feels the betrayal of their leaving like a wound that never quite healed. That the Padres had won a World Series -- he's waited his whole life, and while hope springs eternal, his time for waiting is running out. That one of his descendants would catch the genealogy bug, would understand the profound importance of knowing where you come from, would take up the research and carry it forward. But you can't control what captures someone's heart, what ignites their passion. He's given them the tools. Maybe someday one of them will use them.

The Padres get the tying run on base, and Randy leans forward slightly, invested despite everything. His daughter squeezes his hand. His grandson brings him a glass of water. His granddaughter asks if he needs anything, and he shakes his head, smiles, says "I have everything I need right here."

And it's true. This room contains his riches -- not material wealth, but the wealth that actually matters. Love and family and memory and home. The Padres strike out to end the inning, and Randy settles back in his chair, content. There will be other games, or there won't. Either way, he's been a fan, loyal to the end, which is all anyone can ask.

Glen Abbey Memorial Park in Bonita will be his final address, close to his roots, near his memorable places, within the geography he's loved. His body will rest there, close to the soil that shaped him, but his real monument is this: the lives he touched, the family he built, the love he gave freely, the memories he leaves behind like treasures scattered through San Diego's streets and beaches and buildings.

The geography of a life, mapped in miles and moments, in places and people, in ordinary days that somehow become sacred when you string them all together. From Via Trieste through all of San Diego and back to Via Trieste, the polygonal circle complete, the journey done.

Outside, the sun slips below the horizon, and the first stars begin to appear. Inside, Randy closes his eyes, the voices of his loved ones washing over him like waves at Mission Beach -- eternal, comforting, home. The map lies on the table, ready for those who come after, an invitation to understand, to remember, to trace the footsteps of a man who loved well and lived fully in this sun-soaked corner of California.

All leading home.

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This seems pretty maudlin to me.  Perhaps it would be better written as a dream?  This is really my memories of my life in San Diego to date.  I'm still here, but now this story is written in case something happens to me. I hope my descendants take me for this last ride.

Here is the Google NotebookLM Video Overview about my life memories about San Diego: 

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